I have a bone to pick. You know when people talk about their life and they say “I just want to live comfortably”? What does that even mean? Pay the bills on time, buy a big house, fill it full of comfortable furniture, maybe pop out some kiddos to sit on that comfortable furniture?
Comfortable sounds kind of boring to me.
I think I’d rather live an uncomfortable life. I want to consistently put myself into new situations. Try something that is hard. Do something everyday that scares me. That’s how you grow.
Sure, I want to pay my bills on time, have a roof over my head and food in the fridge. Maybe even do the kids thing someday (maybe). But I don’t want to forget to keep living along the way. Routine can be great, but it’s also the enemy of time. It makes it go by too fast. Routine is also the enemy of progress. If you want to get better, you cannot settle for what worked for you yesterday.
The last few months have been uncomfortable for me to say the least. Some things have just flat out scared me. I don’t know what I’ll be doing in a month or even where I’ll be living. But you know what? I’m still happier than 4 years ago when I had a plan and routine: a well paying 9-5 desk job, engaged right out of college, and spending weekends getting lost in Ikea looking for comfortable furniture. I was happy on the outside, but a zombie on the inside. It just wasn’t me. So I did probably the scariest thing I’ve done to date: I jumped out of my comfortable life, in entirety. The job, relationship, Ikea furniture and the safety I once found in routine (although…I’ll admit, I still have a lot of Ikea furniture, but you get the point).
I don’t like to think of my decision as bailing, giving up or quitting. I think it was more like I finally had the courage to look into my soul and say yes to myself.
Right now, I’m scrappily scrapping by and I am the happiest I’ve ever been. I’m figuring it out as I go, taking chances and not getting sucked back into that comfortable lifestyle. I don’t have a routine. I don’t have a plan. Yes, it scares the heck out of me somedays, but I keep pushing myself out of my comfort zone and know that tomorrow I will be stronger than I am today.
If you skipped all that blabbering, the main message is challenge yourself daily, do something that scares you, don’t let time slip by while you’re in your comfortable routine. What I love about this idea is that it can apply to any aspect of your life – work, relationships, sweat life, spirituality …any of it can benefit from being a little uncomfortable.
I love the saying “if it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you” and the Zen quote “Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.” Those have been my mantras lately.
oh and this quote just gets me every time:
“I want to get more comfortable being uncomfortable. I want to get more confident being uncertain. I don’t want to shrink back just because something isn’t easy. I want to push back, and make more room in the area between I can’t and I can.”
Oh and just in case you just came for a few Mr.Teeps pictures and not my gibber gabber, here ya go.
Thanks for dropping by. I hope you do something today that scares you.